Welcome to TheOrganizedChaosMom!!! I’ve been building content for a few weeks now and working on different designs of the website to see what works best and I am finally ready to share it with all of you in my official launch! I’ve had the Instagram account, glassceilingbreakers, for almost 8 months now and I’ve seen it grow exponentially over the past few months and I’m so thankful to all of my followers! I still want to focus on that account on a more daily basis, although it will be more geared towards general women empowerment and motivation. As always, if there are any topics you have questions on or want to see more of let me know for future posts!! I’m also on twitter now too at orgnzdchaosmom so follow there for more content from me on a personal level! However, there is still an area near and dear to my heart that I felt like I needed to address and dive deeper into: working moms!
First, a little bit about myself. I got married when I was 29 years old and was gifted not only with a great husband but two amazing daughters as well, who were five and seven at the time. Even though this was a second marriage for the both of us (I didn’t have any kids from my first marriage), there was still a learning curve we had to go through. The girls had to get used to a new routine and step mom, and I had to get used to being a mother. Motherhood is definitely one of those parts of life that in theory you think you know and are ready for it, but in reality you have no idea. I struggled with a lot of different situations and was extra hard on myself because I didn’t want our family to fall into the stereotypical traps of blended families. We tried very hard to have open communication between all the parents involved (their dad, their step mom – me, and their mom) and be a united front for the kids. Parenting is hard enough, without throwing co-parenting into the mix. On top of that, I now had to adjust to working full-time while having the girls during the week (our time was Monday through Thursdays). I am an electrical engineer and had been in the automotive industry for about eight years at this point, so at least I had the whole working thing down (being in a male-dominated field, however, is a whole other story).
I was so busy making sure the girls adjustment went as seamlessly and smoothly as possible that I really didn’t have much time to analyze my own situation. Every decision revolved around the girls and what would benefit them. My husband was very good at making sure I was adjusting as well so overall we weren’t doing too bad. There were so many situations that would come up and my husband and I would continue to be hard on ourselves. But when I would talk to other moms who had kids around the same ages, I would find out that the issues we were having were normal and not necessarily due to their situation. This was such a relief and we realized kids are so much more resilient than we gave them credit for. I also realized that other parents were going through the same struggles, and other working moms had similar hardships to what I was going through as well. The more I talked to people, the better I felt that we were doing the best we could and we tried to not be as tough on ourselves as we were.
For me, adjusting to working and taking care of kids wasn’t so bad, mainly because they were somewhat independent at those ages and could verbalize what they wanted and how they felt. My husband and I tried to help each other out as much as possible, and we managed to get into a good routine. It was definitely a challenge for me, though, to all of a sudden have to juggle motherhood and working full time. Little did I know, it was nothing compared to the struggle of having my own child and working full time with three kids now. The girls are now ten and eight years old and the newest addition to our family, our son, is 17 months old. I took off five months for my maternity leave, and let me just say going back to work was one of the hardest and most emotional things I’ve had to do. It’s been a learning curve for sure, and the learning never ends.
My main goal of starting glassceilingbreakers was to help motivate and empower other women because I know what it’s like to feel unappreciated in the workforce and have the odds stacked against me. It took me a long time to adjust to being in a male-dominated field, I was also struggling with being the youngest (with large age gaps for years when I first started at 21) and sometimes even the only woman in an entire department (of about 40 engineers). It took me a long time to learn the hard way how to make my way and have my voice be heard, and I’ve had a difficult time of defining what success means to me in my career and personal life. I’ve been in the automotive industry for over ten years, and I’ve learned so much that I only hope to help other women get to where they want to be in life easier through my difficulties and lessons learned.
The same goes for TheOrganizedChaosMom, but with a more focused theme of working moms and the different struggles we go through on a daily basis to be the best at everything we do while trying to ease the Mom Guilt we inevitably go through. Life with a career and kids and a husband while still trying to maintain some semblance of a social life can only be defined as organized chaos. It’s completely chaotic and we usually have no less than five different things going on at once and even though we set impossibly high standards for ourselves, we always manage to get it done. I’m also going to start “TheOrganizedChaosMom’s Hack of the Week” where every week I’ll share different ideas and anything that has helped make my life a little easier with kids and work. The purpose here is so that we can all share the different techniques, products, or hacks that help us get through our weeks smoother and more efficiently. So join me on this journey of motherhood while we pave the way for our careers and help motivate each other along the way! Make sure to subscribe so you can stay up to date with all the latest that’s going on!